What is Resilience and Why is It Important to Bounce Back? (2023)

What is Resilience and Why is It Important to Bounce Back? (1)One of the most popular topics in positive psychology—both in the field itself and in mainstream discussion of positive psychological concepts—is resilience.

To some, resilience is a sort of “miracle drug” personality trait, something that can heal all wounds and right all wrongs.

While resilience may not be the end-all and be-all of personality traits, it’s such a hot topic for good reason: it is a wonderful trait to have, it is related to a plethora of positive outcomes, and—perhaps most important of all—it can be improved.

Read on to learn more about resilience and why it deserves every bit of the attention it gets.

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This Article Contains:

  • What is Resilience? A Definition
  • The Psychology of Mental Strength
  • Why is Being Resilient so Important?
  • Growing Mentally Strong as a Person
  • 10 Quotes on Resilience
  • A Take-Home Message
  • References

What is Resilience? A Definition

Psychology Today describes it this way:

“Resilience is that ineffable quality that allows some people to be knocked down by life and come back stronger than ever. Rather than letting failure overcome them and drain their resolve, they find a way to rise from the ashes.”

In a nutshell, resilience can be defined as the ability – and tendency – to “bounce back.”

What’s the Meaning of Bouncing Back?

Bouncing back” is what we do when we face disappointment, defeat, and failure, but instead of wallowing or letting things keep us down, we get back up and continue on with our lives.

According to the APA Help Center, it’s “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress” (APA Help Center, n.d.).

You might say someone bounces back when they experience a traumatic car accident and sustain serious injuries, but stay positive and optimistic through a long physical therapy journey.

Resilience and Mental Toughness: What’s the Difference?

Aside from the term “bouncing back,” there are many more similar concepts that resilience is often associated with. For instance, resilience is frequently used interchangeably with “mental toughness.”

So what is mental toughness? Mental toughness is “a personality trait which determines in large part how individuals deal with stress, pressure and challenge irrespective of circumstances” (Strycharczyk, 2015). It’s part hardiness (optimism and predisposition towards challenge and risk), part confidence, and it is what allows people to take whatever comes in stride, with a focus on what they can learn and gain from the experience.

While the association with resilience is understandable, it’s also easy to see where they differ: resilience is what helps people recover from a setback, but mental toughness can help people avoid experiencing a setback in the first place.

As Doug Strycharczyk puts it, “All mentally tough individuals are resilient, but not all resilient individuals are mentally tough” (2015).

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Those who are mentally tough are not only able to bounce back, they are more likely to see hardship as a welcome challenge and greet it with a smile.

Resilience vs. Grit

Another commonly used synonym for resilience is grit, but is grit really a synonym for resilience?

According to Professor Guy Claxton’s Building Learning Power organization, grit is not just a synonym for resilience:

“Grit is a more recent import, much researched by Angela Duckworth, and is defined as the tendency to sustain interest and effort towards long term goals. It is associated with self control and deferring short term gratification”

(Building Learning Power, n.d.).

Resilience is more narrowly defined, although it is related to the same experiences, skills, and competencies. One simple way to think about the differences between resilience and grit is that resilience more often refers to the ability to bounce back from short-term struggles, while grit is the tendency to stick with something long-term, no matter how difficult it is or how many roadblocks you face.

It’s great to have both resilience and grit, but it’s clear that they refer to two different traits.

Mental Endurance: Yet Another Synonym?

Another construct that is similar to resilience is mental endurance. Mental endurance refers to the mental or inner strength that we use to deal with our challenges.

It requires willpower, self-discipline, and perseverance to develop and maintain mental endurance (Sasson, n.d.). Although it is not specific to “bouncing back” from trauma or adversity, it is related in the sense that both traits help us deal with difficulty in our lives.

What is the Meaning of Fortitude?

Finally, there’s fortitude—yet another word that is often used in tandem with or in lieu of “resilience.”

Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines fortitude as “strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage.”

This shares some obvious similarities with the other constructs mentioned above, namely mental toughness and mental endurance. All three are rooted in this idea of inner strength, a reserve of mental power that we can draw upon to get us through the most difficult times.

The Psychology of Mental Strength

Although you might read about resilience (and all of the many, many traits related to it) and think that it applies to only the most inspiring, impressive, and awesome among us, resilience is surprisingly common. As the APA Help Center’s (n.d.) piece on resilience states, “Research has shown that resilience is ordinary, not extraordinary. People commonly demonstrate resilience.”

Resilience isn’t about floating through life on a breeze, or skating by all of life’s many challenges unscathed; rather, it’s about experiencing all of the negative, difficult, and distressing events that life throws at you and staying on task, optimistic, and high-functioning. In fact, developing resilience basically requires emotional distress. If we never ran into disappointment in the first place, we would never learn how to deal with it.

When you think about it in those terms, it’s easy to see that we all display some pretty impressive resilience. Some of us are more resilient than others, but we have all been knocked down, defeated, and despondent at some point in our lives; however, we kept going—and here we are today, stronger and more experienced.

Demonstrating Resilience as an Individual

So what does it look like to demonstrate resilience?

The APA outlines a number of factors that contribute to and act as markers of resilience, including:

  • The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.
  • A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.
  • Skills in communication and problem-solving.
  • The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses (APA Help Center n.d.).

Author and resilience expert Glenn Schiraldi (2017) provides even more examples and characteristics of resilient people, listing strengths, traits, and coping mechanisms that are highly correlated with resilience:

  1. Sense of autonomy (having appropriate separation or independence from family dysfunction; being self-sufficient; being determined to be different—perhaps leaving an abusive home; being self-protecting; having goals to build a better life)
  2. Calm under pressure (equanimity, the ability to regulate stress levels)
  3. Rational thought process
  4. Self-esteem
  5. Optimism
  6. Happiness and emotional intelligence
  7. Meaning and purpose (believing your life matters)
  8. Humor
  9. Altruism (learned helpfulness), love, and compassion

In addition, these characteristics are also mentioned by Glenn Schiraldi:

  1. Character (integrity, moral strength)
  2. Curiosity (which is related to focus and interested engagement)
  3. Balance (engagement in a wide range of activities, such as hobbies, educational pursuits, jobs, social and cultural pastimes)
  4. Sociability and social competence (getting along, using bonding skills, being willing to seek out and commit to relationships, enjoying interdependence)
  5. Adaptability (having persistence, confidence, and flexibility; accepting what can’t be controlled; using creative problem-solving skills and active coping strategies)
  6. Intrinsic religious faith
  7. A long view of suffering
  8. Good health habits (getting sufficient sleep, nutrition, and exercise; not using alcohol or other substances immoderately; not using tobacco at all; maintaining good personal appearance and hygiene)

To summarize, if a person has awareness (both of the self and of the environment around them), they manage their feelings effectively, keep a handle on their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and understand that life has its inevitable ups and downs.

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Why is Being Resilient so Important?

You hear a lot about growing and developing resilience – both in ourselves and in children – for good reason.

Therapist and counselor Joshua Miles lists a few of the wide range of reasons that resilience is a great trait to have:

  • Greater resilience leads to improved learning and academic achievement.
  • Resilience is related to lower absences from work or school due to sickness.
  • It contributes to reduced risk-taking behaviors including excessive drinking, smoking, and use of drugs.
  • Those with greater resilience tend to be more involved in the community and/or family activities.
  • Higher resilience is related to a lower rate of mortality and increased physical health (2015).

The Effects of Psychological Strength on Overall Health

Although every point in that list is a good reason to pay attention to resilience, the last one may be most important of all. Resilience has a powerful impact on our health (and vice versa, in some ways).

A recent review of the research on resilience suggested that resilience leads or contributes to many different positive health outcomes, including:

  • The experience of more positive emotions and better regulation of negative emotions
  • Less depressive symptoms
  • Greater resistance to stress
  • Better coping with stress, through enhanced problem-solving, a positive orientation, and re-evaluation of stressors
  • Successful aging and improved sense of well-being despite age-related challenges
  • Better recovery after a spinal cord injury
  • Better management of PTSD symptoms (Khosla, 2017).

Further, resilience experts Harry Mills and Mark Dombeck point to research that resilience boosts immune system functioning. Resilient people are able to better manage negative emotions and experience more positive emotions, which leads to objectively good health outcomes like more immune system cells and better immune functioning in cancer patients, and more favorable mortality rates in marrow transplant patients (n.d.).

Growing Mentally Strong as a Person

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Since we know that being resilient is such a helpful trait to have, the next logical question is: How do we develop it?

Luckily, resilience is not an immutable, “you have it or you don’t” sort of trait. There may be a genetic component to a person’s base level of resilience, but you are always able to improve upon the resilience you have.

This add-on resilience is often referred to as “self-learned resilience.”

How Self-Learned Resilience Works

Self-learned resilience, as the name implies, is the resilience that you build up in yourself through concerted effort. It is the result of being aware of the opportunities for self-development and the courage to take advantage of them.

There are many ways to build up your own reserve of self-learned resilience. Below are just a few ways to go about it from three different sources.

From Dr. Carine Nzodom on using a loss or stressful event to grow:

  1. Allow yourself to feel a wide range of emotions.
  2. Identify your support system and let them be there for you.
  3. Process your emotions with the help of a therapist.
  4. Be mindful of your wellness and self-care.
  5. Get some rest or try to get an adequate amount of sleep.
  6. Try your best to maintain a routine.
  7. Write about your experience and share it with others (2017).

From VeryWell Mind author Kendra Cherry:

  1. Find a sense of purpose in your life, which will help boost you up on difficult days.
  2. Build positive beliefs in your abilities to help you increase your self-esteem.
  3. Develop a strong social network of people who support you and who you can confide in.
  4. Embrace change as the inevitability that it is, and be ready for it.
  5. Be optimistic—you don’t need to ignore your problems, just understand that it’s all temporary and that you have what it takes to make it through.
  6. Nurture yourself with healthy, positive self-care—get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise.
  7. Develop your problem-solving skills through strategies like making a list of potential ways to solve your current problem.
  8. Establish reasonable goals by brainstorming solutions and breaking them down into manageable steps.
  9. Take action to solve problems rather than waiting for the problem to solve itself.

And remember: Keep working on your skills and don’t get discouraged if it takes a while to get to the level of resilience you desire (Cherry, 2018).

From Kira M. Newman at the University of California at Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center:

  1. Change the narrative by free writing about the issue or deciding to focus on the positives.
  2. Face your fears and challenge yourself; expose yourself to things that scare you in increasingly larger doses.
  3. Practice self-compassion; try to be mindful, remind yourself that you’re not alone, and be kind to yourself.
  4. Meditate and practice mindfulness; the Body Scan is a good way to work on your meditation and mindfulness skills.
  5. Cultivate forgiveness by letting go of grudges and letting yourself off the hook (2016).

Raising Children to Be Resilient

If you’re a parent or a dedicated teacher or another important adult in a child’s life, you might be wondering what you can do now to help your child grow up with resilience.

The American Psychological Association has some excellent tips and techniques on encouraging resilience in the children in your life. Give these ideas a try:

  1. Help your child make connections with others to help them build empathy, grow their support network, and encourage resilience.
  2. Encourage your child to help others, which can help them feel empowered.
  3. Maintain a daily routine to give young children a sense of safety and structure in their lives, and encourage them to develop their own routines.
  4. Take a break, and teach your child how to take a break; show him or her that excessive worrying is unproductive and can be harmful, and encourage him or her to set aside what they are worried about at least once in a while.
  5. Teach your child self-care, including eating healthy, exercising, getting a good amount of sleep, and having downtime to just relax and have fun.
  6. Help your child set reasonable goals and move toward them, one step at a time; this will help him or her to focus on what they have accomplished rather than what they haven’t accomplished.
  7. Nurture a positive self-view in your child by reminding him or her of the ways he or she has successfully handled difficulties and hardships in the past, and connect their past success with their future potential.
  8. Help your child keep things in perspective and encourage a long-term view—especially when he or she is stuck on something negative right now.
  9. Look for opportunities for self-discovery for your child, and show him or her how to do the same.

Last but not the least, teach your child to accept that change is an inevitable part of living, and that we can always replace goals that have become unattainable with new, more relevant goals (APA Help Center, n.d.).

Resilience Training

Besides self-learned resilience and teaching resilience to kids, you might want to take it even further and sign up for a course. A highly recommended course is the Realizing Resilience Masterclass which will improve your own resilience skills, but also equip you to coach others in resilience.

Complete with 6 modules and a certificate upon completion, this course will help you be an excellent teacher, parent, coach or even a great friend, able to bounce back despite the challenges in life.

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10 Quotes on Resilience

If you want to get a better handle on resilience or share your insights with others, you might find one or more of these quotes can help you reach your goals.

“The human capacity for burden is like bamboo—far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance.”

Jodi Picoult

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“It’s your reaction to adversity, not adversity itself that determines how your life’s story will develop.”

Dieter F. Uchtdorf

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“The difference between a strong man and a weak one is that the former does not give up after a defeat.”

Woodrow Wilson

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“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”

Hellen Keller

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“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.”

Robert Jordan

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“If your heart is broken, make art with the pieces.”

Shane Koyczan

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“Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it’s less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you’ve lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that’s good.”

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Elizabeth Edwards

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“No matter how much falls on us, we keep plowing ahead. That’s the only way to keep the roads clear.”

Greg Kincaid

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“Resilience is knowing that you are the only one that has the power and the responsibility to pick yourself up.”

Mary Holloway

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“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”

Steve Maraboli

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A Take-Home Message

You probably already knew that resilience is an important trait to have, but this piece stressed another important concept: that you have the power to build your own resilience (and to help the children in your life develop resilience).

We so often forget about how much power we have over our lives and our circumstances. I hope this piece has reminded you that you do indeed have the power to improve your resilience and build your competence and confidence in yourself.

What are your thoughts on resilience? Do you think any of the related concepts are more important to develop? Are you not convinced that resilience is as vital as everyone says? What do you do to build your own resilience? Let us know in the comments section below!

Thanks for reading!

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What is resilience and why is it important to bounce back? ›

Resilience is the ability to believe in yourself, to cope to the best of your abilities, to adapt well in difficult circumstances—to "bounce back" from adversity. It isn't something you're born with. It's taught and nurtured.

What is resilient and why is it important? ›

Resilience is what gives people the emotional strength to cope with trauma, adversity, and hardship. Resilient people utilize their resources, strengths, and skills to overcome challenges and work through setbacks.

What is resilience short answer? ›

Resilience is the process and outcome of successfully adapting to difficult or challenging life experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility and adjustment to external and internal demands.

Why is resilience so important? ›

Resilience can help protect you from various mental health conditions, such as depression and anxiety. Resilience can also help offset factors that increase the risk of mental health conditions, such as being bullied or previous trauma.

How can resilient people bounce back? ›

Resilience (or resiliency) is our ability to adapt and bounce back when things don't go as planned. Resilient people don't wallow or dwell on failures; they acknowledge the situation, learn from their mistakes, and then move forward.


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